Things are not always what they seem; the first appearance deceives many
Things are not always what they seem!
That’s a fact.Things are not always as they seem; the first appearance deceives many. Phaedrus #QOTD Click To Tweet
My friend Cass wrote a post on her blog Leather Jacket Foxes (how cool is this name?) about the difference between online and offline lives and I think you should read it. It really made sense to me and is something I’ve had to remind myself a lot since becoming more involved in the online world. You can’t compare your journey to that of other bloggers. They show you what they want you to see.
The same is true for others outside of the blogging world too.
Some people only show you the parts of their life that they want you to see. They tell you the stories that reflect them in a good light. They dress in a way that portrays them in a certain way. They buy certain brands, they go to specific places and then bring all of that into their online persona too.
The bottom line is that you don’t always get the real version of someone’s life.
You don’t get to see the parts behind the smile!
You get the curated and tailored one that they want you to see.
You need to be careful that you don’t buy into what they’re selling to you and let yourself feel inadequate because of it.
The car that they are driving that wouldn’t even fit in your garage is probably where they are spending most of their salary every month. Don’t judge your own worth by someone else’s portrayal of wealth. Driving a fancy car DOES NOT make a person successful.Don’t Compare Your Life to Someone’s High-Light Reel Click To Tweet
Driving a fancy car that is owned by the bank that lost 20% of its value the second it left the show room floor in not an indication of wealth or success. So don’t let it make you feel inferior.
Don’t look at their holidays and feel like your life is inadequate because you don’t get to fly off to the Maldives. Who knows, perhaps they’re crying themselves to sleep because they can’t find love.
Things are not always as they seem!
Don’t buy into the bullshit that people sell to you. Remember that everything you see is what they want you to see.
It’s not “cool” to post the photos of you crying alone at night so instead, we post the photos of us smiling with the biggest glass of wine. No one realises that the only way you got through the day is by drinking that wine.
Nope, it’s not “cool” to be weak and to have emotions and to fall apart.
It’s “cool” to look like you have it all. The champagne lifestyle, the big house, the fancy car, the happy relationship, the perfect child, the perfect life.
A friend asked me recently how I was doing and I said I’m struggling because my child is behaving like a little asshole and he said it’s funny to see what mom’s post in public about their children and what they say in private. This really hit home.
I love my child. He is truly my #perfectchild but he also has days when nothing is okay. He cries over everything and he behaves like the world is coming to an end and I don’t know what to do other than just cry. I love him more than anything but being a mom has been the biggest challenge of my life. He makes everything worth it but it’s not easy.
You have to make so many sacrifices to be a parent. Everything is harder than it used to be. Does it mean I have regrets? Not even the smallest one. I love my life. But sometimes, it’s hard!
Don’t let people mislead you just because they don’t broadcast the hard parts of their lives. Just because they only share the things that make their lives look enviable. Everyone has baggage that they carry around with them not knowing how to let go.
Just because it’s not instagrammed, doesn’t mean it’s not there!
Don’t spend your life comparing yourself to what other people show you. You really never really know what their truth is so instead, just be you, just do you and just live your life the best way you know how!
Things are not always as they seem; the first appearance deceives many. Phaedrus