Just over a decade ago I spent the year traveling around the world on my own. I went anywhere and everywhere that my heart desired. I had the best freaking time of my life. I did, really I did. That’s how to find yourself isn’t it? By jumping into the deep end and figuring out how to swim! Looking back though, my memories, though mostly happy are littered with sadness. I was traveling to escape my real life problems. I was traveling to figure out how to find myself. My
Welcome to 2017! This year is full of all the things you’ve been waiting for. It’s filled with dreams and goals and working harder and making money and being successful. This year is filled with all the same bullshit that last year was filled with. Yup, I said it. Someone had to! Life doesn’t get better just because the days pass by! You get out what you put in! Making resolutions to be better this year means nothing if you don’t change your actions. So this year I challenge you.
Reflecting on 2016 This year has been long and hard. I had a bunch of surgeries towards the early part of the year and I spent the rest of the year fighting to get back to my old self. I’ve learnt a lot during this year. I’ve learnt about being resilient , I’ve learnt so much about being a mom but I’ve also learnt so much about living with intention and being authentic. It’s hard to focus on yourself and your needs when you have a family and you’re trying to get
I promise you, it gets easier It’s not easy having a colostomy bag. Adapting to new changes. A whole new way of living. No one can tell you that it’s going to be easy. It’s not easy even for the strongest person. But I promise you, it will get easier! You will get used to it and you will be braver as time goes on. People will ask you questions. Lots of them. Some of them will be awkward “but what about your bum, don’t you poo out there anymore?” Others
This is a tough one for me to write. I feel like I’m putting myself out there a little too much but let’s be honest, after reading about how I pooped through a hole in my tummy into a bag nothing is gonna shock you, so here goes. Over the course of the last year, I’ve put on 10 kgs. I weigh more than I ever have. I hate my body and I hate the way it makes me feel. I know it’s not the worst body and I know
It was stolen from right outside our house just before Christmas! The holiday season is such an amazing time of year don’t you think? Everyone is relaxed and having a great time and eating so much amazing food. The last thing anyone thinks of is something bad happening. Like your car being stolen from right outside your gate just days before Christmas! You never think this kind of thing will happen to you. It’s always the kind of thing that happens to someone you know. Until it does happen to you.
When dreams change A few years ago, if you’d asked me where I saw myself in 5 years time, I’d have told you running an NGO dedicated to empowering women to find work and get employed or start their own businesses. I had no idea that my life would take a different turn. Sometimes you just have to follow your heart and see where you end up. Helping women has always been my calling – it just seems to have manifested itself in a different way throughout my life. A few years before that,
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So much of my life has been an emotional struggle. A struggle between what I wanted to do and what I thought I should do. I just didn’t think it was okay to be myself. To do what I wanted to do. Trying to be yourself isn’t the easiest road to travel even though it should be. I was so afraid of failing. I was so afraid of disappointing everyone around me. Something tells me that if you’re reading this, you know how it feels. You know how it feels to
On the weekend we went out to a family friendly restaurant specifically so my son who is now 14 months old could play with some other kids. After our meal, I took him into the play area. He was walking around singing to himself as he usually does when he decided to pick up some little plastic balls from the ball pit. So there he was, walking around holding two balls, one in each hand, still singing when some little asshole of a child (probably around age 3 or 4)
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela This is a quote that I find myself repeating over and over again to myself throughout my life. It seems to have settled in my head as some sort of mantra. Life can be so terrifying. You come up with an idea and it’s amazing. You write it down and you mind map and plan.
One of the things I’ve seen a lot of people struggle with is letting go. Letting go of fear, letting go of experiences and letting go of the thing you’ve always done in order to do the thing you want to do now. Does this sound like something you’ve experienced? My own personal experience has been exactly like this. I spent YEARS at university getting qualifications in various subjects. I racked up a collection of degrees and when I decided that I wanted to stay home and be a mom
I didn’t always know if I wanted to be a parent. I thought the world can be so ugly that I wasn’t sure that I wanted to bring a new life into it. When I met my husband, that changed. I decided I wanted to have a family with him. When we started trying for a baby, and then found out we couldn’t naturally conceive, I was crushed. When the miracle that is my son happened, without drugs, without IVF, without being possible, I was over the moon. We were
So many of us spend our days coasting along through life just passing time from one day to the next. We go to jobs that pay us because we need the money, we see people we don’t really like but we’ve known a long time and we plod from one moment to the next because that’s what is required. What if I told you there was a better way to live? What if I told you that a fulfilled life involved making the decision to be present in your life.
I see it happen all the time, for freaks sake, I’ve been there. I’ve been that person saying “but I love him” or “but we love each other” but looking back, the truth is, love is just not enough. It should be, it should make the world go round and all that fluff but it doesn’t. Loving someone who does not love you back, is not worth it. It’s not enough and it never should be. I think we accept the love we think we deserve. The more we grow