My childhood was a constant battle between what is and what isn’t considered appropriate for a girl. I grew up to be that woman, living a constant battle between what is and what isn’t appropriate behaviour for a woman. I was raised to think independently and to be an independent woman. I was taught to pursue a career path that would enable me to always support myself. If you depend on a man, you are forever stuck at his mercy. Asking for pennies and cents to survive. Always be a financially independent
Empowering women has always been important to me. Perhaps more so in recent years though. For as long as I’ve lived, I’ve been surrounded by people who believe in the power we have as individuals to make a difference. I’ve watched lives being changed because of the opportunities given to them. I’ve seen dreams become realities because someone gave that one person a chance. I was raised to believe that if you’re in a position of privilege in any way, it’s your responsibility to give a hand up to someone else.
I know you’ve just started out and you’re reading through the masses of information out there on the internet and you’re wondering how the fuck will you ever know it all. I know that when you’re a new blogger everything seems so scary. So here’s a little secret. I don’t think anyone ever knows it all. Sure there are the loud mouths who act like they know everything. They speak in a confident manner and perhaps they know a lot. Perhaps they know so much more than you and I
Learning to trust your intuition means going with your gut feelings about something. It’s that feeling that you get when you’re walking alone at night and you hear a sound but you tell yourself you’re just being paranoid? That the guy that has been walking behind you for the last three blocks is probably just going the same way. Even though every part of you wants to just run? You want to run but you don’t want to offend someone incase you’re wrong. So you keep walking. You’ve got to
A few years back I hated my job. I hated having to go into work every day and sit behind a desk for the most part of my day. Eventually, I decided that the only option I had was to quit my job and figure out a way to do work that made me happy but allowed me to work from home. It was the best decision I could have ever made and I’ve never looked back. Now, I work my own schedule at my own pace and I’m always
When did I get here? Here you ask? Well let me tell you, here in Adultville! It’s SCARY! Dealing with the importance of education and choosing a school for our son! I feel like it was just yesterday that I was following the rules of “living under my roof” as my dad always used to say. You know those things parents say when they’re getting you to do the things you need to do as a good responsible child. Yup. I was just coasting along as a child under someone else’s
By Emma Zeta Skinner I want you to cast your mind back to when you were a little kid. What did you want to be when you grew up? A doctor? A space cowboy? A ballerina? A builder? Or just happy? Now I want you to look at your present self. What do you do? Do you have a job? Do you do something you love? Or are you meandering forward with no real direction, but just seeing where life takes you? Did you really dream of being a tax
When dreams change A few years ago, if you’d asked me where I saw myself in 5 years time, I’d have told you running an NGO dedicated to empowering women to find work and get employed or start their own businesses. I had no idea that my life would take a different turn. Sometimes you just have to follow your heart and see where you end up. Helping women has always been my calling – it just seems to have manifested itself in a different way throughout my life. A few years before that,
I see a lot of women saying things like “oh I’m not an expert” or “but I don’t know enough” when talking about their value or their self-worth. I know so many successful and intelligent women who say the same thing over and over again. They don’t see their value, they don’t see themselves as capable or even able. They doubt themselves and their abilities to get things done. I don’t think men are as quick to put themselves down as women. I think that comes from generations of men
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela This is a quote that I find myself repeating over and over again to myself throughout my life. It seems to have settled in my head as some sort of mantra. Life can be so terrifying. You come up with an idea and it’s amazing. You write it down and you mind map and plan.
One of the things I’ve seen a lot of people struggle with is letting go. Letting go of fear, letting go of experiences and letting go of the thing you’ve always done in order to do the thing you want to do now. Does this sound like something you’ve experienced? My own personal experience has been exactly like this. I spent YEARS at university getting qualifications in various subjects. I racked up a collection of degrees and when I decided that I wanted to stay home and be a mom
I think one of the greatest challenges we face in the world today is being afraid to embrace what makes us awesome. The truth is, we have a serious fear of rejection and failure. The truth is, we will do so many things in our lives that we aren’t good at and we will no doubt fail doing those things. That’s just part of life. We will fail, we will be rejected and we will be told we aren’t good enough. What matters is that every time we fall down, we
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” ― Mae West What does your ideal life look like? Ideal: a conception of something in its perfection. When I was growing up, my ideal life looking nothing at all like what my ideal life looks like now. I had this dream of being a high-powered corporate lawyer, fighting away the injustices of the world. Truth be told, my ideal life looked a lot like what I saw on the TV show Ally McBeal! I wanted to have her
Why is self-confidence important? A lack of confidence in my own abilities is what single-handedly held me back from pursuing my dreams for far too long. I did not believe in myself or my abilities to achieve and I didn’t know how to build confidence in myself. One day, after coasting through life for far too long, I decided that it was time to stand up for myself and to put myself first. I decided that I was capable and I knew that I had to prove that to myself
I started this blog two years ago when I decided I’d had enough of working for other people. I up and quit my job and found myself at home with lots of time to spare. My husband and I went on a road trip to celebrate being done with that part of my life and I informally blogged about the trip. When I got home, I decided this was it for me. I’ve always loved writing and it’s the one thing I’ve always relied on to get me through the