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Being yourself is a daily struggle, a daily battle we fight against ourselves, against those around us. We are surrounded by rules. How to live, how to be, what to do and when. We take lunch, when we are told we can and go home at an hour dictated to us by the rules. We follow these rules, the book of how to for life. We do because our parents before us did, because our children are expected to. But what if you don’t? What if you break the rules

What does a life of value look like to you? It’s a really personal matter and no one is here to tell you the answers to questions like this. You’ve got to be brace enough to look at your life and try to figure out the parts that make you happy and the parts that don’t. The ones that make you happy you can put under the life of value box. The ones that don’t, put those under the throw out box. Am I truly happy in my life as it

When I die, I want people to remember me for living a life that made me happy. I want my eulogy to be about the authentic way I lived instead of the things I amassed during my time. I want to be remembered by my son, for doing things my way, for following the path less taken. For being exactly who I am, who I was, who I was meant to be. Not a carbon copy of what the world expected me to be. I want to be remembered for

Why is self-confidence important? A lack of confidence in my own abilities is what single-handedly held me back from pursuing my dreams for far too long. I did not believe in myself or my abilities to achieve and I didn’t know how to build confidence in myself. One day, after coasting through life for far too long, I decided that it was time to stand up for myself and to put myself first. I decided that I was capable and I knew that I had to prove that to myself

I’m a huge fan of girl nights and time spent with your friends so when Mandy-Lee Miller from Pregnant in Cape Town invited me to spend the day at Rouge Day Spa in Kenilworth with her and Maz from Caffeine and Fairydust, I said hell yeah! THEN I got stuck in the worst bloody traffic of all time. It was like the whole of Cape Town had decided to leave work early and come to a stand still in front of me. At first I was convinced I was in

I watched a movie recently, it was called Hector and the search for happiness. It’s a movie about a guy who goes off in search of what makes people happy. He’s a psychiatrist and he calls his journey “research” but the truth is, he’s out there looking for his own version of happy. It made me think about the meaning of happiness. How do you describe happiness? I guess, in essence, happiness is a feeling and not really something that can be described all that well. What makes one person

Today, my son turns one. This is a HUGE deal to me. A year ago today, I went into labour two weeks earlier than expected (thanks to a burst, undiagnosed appendix) and without knowing it, the course of my life changed in more ways than just becoming a mom. I nearly died. I say these words and they still feel like the words of a stranger. Like, this couldn’t be my story. perhaps I read it somewhere. One of those things that happen to a “friend of a friend” –

Life is about ups and downs. You can’t be happy all of the time and sometimes, you have to accept that bad things happen to good people too. However, if you can’t remember a time when you were actually happy, you might need to reflect on your life and what’s going on in it at the moment. When being unhappy becomes a pattern Every now and then, we get sucked into a pattern of unhappiness and we don’t even realise that it has happened but it has completely taken over

I don’t know about you but my anxiety starts to flare up when I don’t have a decent plan of action for the week ahead in place. Everything just feels completely overwhelming and I don’t even want to get out of bed because I can’t bear the thought of starting the day. I have realised over the years that without knowing what exactly my day ahead looks like, I struggle to wrap my mind around getting it done. I like to create my to-do list on Monday morning or Sunday

What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is about having respect for yourself and your abilities. Something that not enough of us have. It’s about how capable someone perceives themselves to be and plays a central role in Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs which depicts self-esteem as one of the main motivators of human behaviour.   Self-actualisation is the idea that what a man can be, he must be and was coined by Maslow. In other words, a person must become what they truly desire.  If a person really and truly wants to become a

It’s a weird thing when you feel like you’re lying at the bottom of a pit of despair and then suddenly out of no where, you get an email telling you that you’re inspirational and deserve this amazing T-shirt just for being awesome. I guess it’s hard to believe nice things about yourself. In fact, even writing this feels like I’m patting myself on the back. I’m not. In these pictures, which were taken MONTHS ago, I was feeling like death. If you look under my eyes you can see

Lately, I feel like everywhere I turn there are people putting up with toxic relationships with people who do nothing but bring them down. There are people who actually thrive on bringing others down and causing chaos. You know the type of person, always causing drama and insulting people or acting superior. Everything they think is right and you don’t know anything and every opinion you have is wrong. Those people make you feel bad about yourself just by being around you. Those people are toxic and in a world

I read a quote that said, “you can’t pour from an empty cup” and it just resonated with me so strongly at this point in my life. Sometimes, as women we are expected to handle so much of everything. We’ve got to be model wives, brazen career women, role model mothers and still find time for the gym to maintain our perfect body. I’m not saying we can’t do it all but I am saying that it can be extremely exhausting to maintain and draining on us as individuals. Putting

It’s so easy to think we are living a life of our choosing without realising the external pressure that is being put on us. We go through our day-to-day lives thinking that we are doing what is best for us when the reality is, we are so used to hearing what we should be doing and how we should be living that we end up walking someone else’s idea of what our path should look like. Whose expectations are you living up to? It is so easy to think that

 Every now and then it’s important to look in the mirror and ask yourself that big question. We all start out with an idea of where we want to end up “some day”, but how many of us take a step back from our adult lives and determine if we’re happy in the lives we have ended up in? More often than expected, the life you have is nothing like the one you imagined as a passionate teenager. We get sidetracked along the way. We end up going on tangents.

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