Today, my son turns one. This is a HUGE deal to me. A year ago today, I went into labour two weeks earlier than expected (thanks to a burst, undiagnosed appendix) and without knowing it, the course of my life changed in more ways than just becoming a mom. I nearly died. I say these words and they still feel like the words of a stranger. Like, this couldn’t be my story. perhaps I read it somewhere. One of those things that happen to a “friend of a friend” –
Life is about ups and downs. You can’t be happy all of the time and sometimes, you have to accept that bad things happen to good people too. However, if you can’t remember a time when you were actually happy, you might need to reflect on your life and what’s going on in it at the moment. When being unhappy becomes a pattern Every now and then, we get sucked into a pattern of unhappiness and we don’t even realise that it has happened but it has completely taken over
I don’t know about you but my anxiety starts to flare up when I don’t have a decent plan of action for the week ahead in place. Everything just feels completely overwhelming and I don’t even want to get out of bed because I can’t bear the thought of starting the day. I have realised over the years that without knowing what exactly my day ahead looks like, I struggle to wrap my mind around getting it done. I like to create my to-do list on Monday morning or Sunday
What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is about having respect for yourself and your abilities. Something that not enough of us have. It’s about how capable someone perceives themselves to be and plays a central role in Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs which depicts self-esteem as one of the main motivators of human behaviour. Self-actualisation is the idea that what a man can be, he must be and was coined by Maslow. In other words, a person must become what they truly desire. If a person really and truly wants to become a
It’s a weird thing when you feel like you’re lying at the bottom of a pit of despair and then suddenly out of no where, you get an email telling you that you’re inspirational and deserve this amazing T-shirt just for being awesome. I guess it’s hard to believe nice things about yourself. In fact, even writing this feels like I’m patting myself on the back. I’m not. In these pictures, which were taken MONTHS ago, I was feeling like death. If you look under my eyes you can see
Lately, I feel like everywhere I turn there are people putting up with toxic relationships with people who do nothing but bring them down. There are people who actually thrive on bringing others down and causing chaos. You know the type of person, always causing drama and insulting people or acting superior. Everything they think is right and you don’t know anything and every opinion you have is wrong. Those people make you feel bad about yourself just by being around you. Those people are toxic and in a world
I read a quote that said, “you can’t pour from an empty cup” and it just resonated with me so strongly at this point in my life. Sometimes, as women we are expected to handle so much of everything. We’ve got to be model wives, brazen career women, role model mothers and still find time for the gym to maintain our perfect body. I’m not saying we can’t do it all but I am saying that it can be extremely exhausting to maintain and draining on us as individuals. Putting
It’s so easy to think we are living a life of our choosing without realising the external pressure that is being put on us. We go through our day-to-day lives thinking that we are doing what is best for us when the reality is, we are so used to hearing what we should be doing and how we should be living that we end up walking someone else’s idea of what our path should look like. Whose expectations are you living up to? It is so easy to think that
Every now and then it’s important to look in the mirror and ask yourself that big question. We all start out with an idea of where we want to end up “some day”, but how many of us take a step back from our adult lives and determine if we’re happy in the lives we have ended up in? More often than expected, the life you have is nothing like the one you imagined as a passionate teenager. We get sidetracked along the way. We end up going on tangents.
These times we’re going through seem a little strange. Everyone and everything is chaos and in turmoil. Just when you think that you see the light at the end of the tunnel, something new happens and you’re thrown into a tailspin. You awake from the stupor, confused and lost. You don’t understand what just happened. Life my dear. Life just happened. Things have been tough around here, then they were worse and then they were better and then worse and better and worse… and I have brain freeze and I
I started this blog two years ago when I decided I’d had enough of working for other people. I up and quit my job and found myself at home with lots of time to spare. My husband and I went on a road trip to celebrate being done with that part of my life and I informally blogged about the trip. When I got home, I decided this was it for me. I’ve always loved writing and it’s the one thing I’ve always relied on to get me through the
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger I love this saying. I don’t know why but after the last five months it feels more true than ever. If you follow my blog, you will know what I’ve been going through. Life has been tough. If you don’t well in a nutshell, I gave birth to my son in September via Emergency C-Section. The days that followed were a nightmare. I suffered numerous complications and nearly died. I don’t think too many people know the meaning of looking death in
2015 was a really hectic year for me. There were so many downs and a really really huge up with the birth of my son but after spending months at the hospital, I was ready to put the year behind me. After all, a new year represents new beginnings and fresh starts and all things wonderful that come with starting a new page in a new book. So on New years eve when my husband insisted that we go to the hospital, I point-blank refused. The pain and discomfort I
We live in a world of instant gratification. Everything is available at our fingertips. So we form opinions on everything from conflict zones, the presidential campaigns of a foreign country, the political economy and what the housewife next door should have for breakfast. Everything is right there before us, isn’t it and we are free to judge as we please. Stop right there. That’s where you’re wrong. Before you decide that you know what’s best for me. Please ask me. Before you decide to label me and call me names.
It’s nearly the end of the year. Christmas is around the corner, literally a few days away and I thought that makes it a pretty good time to do some reflecting over the last year. Blog life I started my blog in January, after a short attempt at blogging unofficially and discovering that writing is my absolute passion. Someone asked me long ago to think about pursuing a life as a writer and I brushed her off. Well, turns out I spent an awful lot of my life having no