It’s okay to smile as you close the door

Sometimes people will try and break you down because it’s the only way they know how to build themselves up. Those are the kinds of people you need to do your absolute best to get away from. You don’t need everyone in your life who ever walked in. 

Some doors you can close when they leave and rest assured knowing it was the right decision. Sometimes it’s a friend who made everything about them even when it really should have been about you. Sometimes it’s a romantic partner who couldn’t understand that their behaviour was hurtful to you. Other times it’s a family member going through their own drama and not realising how hard it can be on you. We all have our own demons and sometimes we’ve got to dance with them but it’s never okay to make other people suffer because of our suffering. 

Always be wary of the impact that you have on others when you’re having a tough time. It’s okay to be down, it’s okay to have a rough patch but it’s never okay to dismiss what someone else is going through at the same time. Value people, value them for who they are but be someone they too can value. You give what you get and if you surround yourself with people who ask you how you’re doing and genuinely want to know the answer, then you’ve done something right.

I’ve always been independent and strong, I love who I am but one of the main consequence of always being okay is that people don’t ask me how I’m doing. Phone calls aren’t usually about me. They’re normally to moan and complain and ask for favours. Sometimes it gets hard and sometimes I just feel drained and I need to remind myself that this is a year of putting me first. I don’t want to get caught up in other people’s drama. I don’t want to surround myself with people who never ask me simply; “how was your day?” and neither should you.