People don’t change. Do they?

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly”

I love this quote, I love how much it explains about the way we feel about embracing change. We don’t always understand what’s happening but when it happens, it’s an incredible thing. We have to learn to grow and adapt and embrace the changes instead of living in fear.

Change is inevitable I think that’s what a lot of things come down to. We don’t always mean to change but as life happens to us, as we make our decisions, a lot of changes do happen whether or not we are in favour of them. We can resist change all we want but in the end, we are powerless.

People are changing all the time, we just don’t give them credit for the changes they go through. We’ve all done things in our lives that we aren’t proud of. The difference lies in how willing we are to own our mistakes and learn from them. If you keep repeating past behaviour and never learn, then perhaps you won’t change but I’m a firm believer in the power of the individual to reshape the path that they live.

I haven’t always been someone I’ve been proud of, I’ve done things in my life that quite frankly I’m ashamed of, but what I know for sure is that I learnt from them. I learnt about consequences, I learnt about the impact of your behaviour and I learnt about what happens if you have no regard for other people’s feelings. They get hurt. That’s never something nice to live with.

As I get older, I get wiser and I’m by no means perfect, it’s a constant work in process but I think I’ve changed. I think I’m very different from the person I used to be twenty years ago, ten years ago and even five years ago. I like myself much more now than the person I was when I was 16. I feel I’ve grown into myself. Perhaps I haven’t changed too much but I’ve definitely grown and isn’t that the same as change really?

What we want out of life changes and so does our behaviour. I think people do change. I think people can change. I think it’s all up to us to shape our world and our future. We don’t have to be prisoners of our past. We don’t have to look to others for guidance, but we do have to treat others the way we ourselves would want to be treated. We certainly don’t have to stick around and wait for someone to change either because growth is such a personal thing. We can’t try to be the catalyst for change and expect that people will become what we need them to become because at the end of the day, change happens from within.



  • Eugene
    2nd March 2015

    It’s important to change and to adapt with the times. The more willing and able you are to do this, the more likely you will survive and prosper. For example, just watch people who scale the corporate ladder. They are adept at changing themselves. They relish the prospect of taking on new challenges. Same goes for a good business person, they relish the prospect of providing high quality services and adopt new high quality methods in the delivery of the high quality service. If you are going to be a hedge hog, curl up and hope things will be OK, you are doomed. You have to be a fox …. adept at change.

    • TyrannyofPink
      2nd March 2015

      Hello Eugene, thank you for your comment. I absolutely agree with you. In this world, we either adapt or die. It’s literally how the entire world progresses through the ages. Species who aren’t able to adapt to changing circumstances will absolutely die out. It is crucial that people learn to accept and perhaps even embrace change instead of being so terrified by it.

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