Nothing about my life has turned out the way I planned it to and I’m okay with that
I recently wrote a post (this post) in which I asked a bunch of questions at the end. One of the questions I asked was; What has surprised you most about the way your life has turned out? and it got me thinking.
Has my life turned out the way I thought it would?
Career wise, the answer is definitely not. I expected to be a lawyer right about now. I expected to be fighting for Human Rights causes and I expected to be travelling the world doing it.
I had never really thought about what that meant for the rest of my life. I knew I would be a mother one day but I never really thought about the plans to get me to that point. I never really thought about being married. I never thought I’d have planned a baby. I never thought it would happen so soon and I never thought about what that meant for my “life plan”.
Weirdly though, the things in my life that I didn’t plan for seem to be the parts of my life that just work. The parts that haven’t been difficult. They’ve happened without my trying.
I accidentally met the man of my dreams – while at a rock festival that I wasn’t even supposed to attend. Both of us had decided to not get seriously involved. A few months later we were living together. The first time I had ever lived with a person I was dating too so it’s not like I’m a serial live together-er. In fact, I am quite lousy at sharing my space and quite frankly I am a pain to live with because I have the worst double standards. I HATE washing dishes but I am unforgiving about dishes standing unwashed for example.
Anyway, I digress, the point is, here we are, in this life of ours, expecting a baby and happily married and that part of my life was never part of any plan.
My career on the other hand which I’d planned since I was about 7 or 8 has turned out to be nothing like what I had imagined. In the beginning it was hard to accept it but as time goes by, I’m becoming less hard on myself. I’ve discovered what success actually means to me. I thought, all the ambition in the world really should result in some high-powered career but actually, all I want now is to write and be a mom and a wife and happy.
[bctt tweet=”Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. – Abraham Lincoln #QOTD “]
Of course, I still feel very strongly about human rights issues. I still feel extremely passionate about community development and I know that my long-term plan (to run my own NGO) will eventually be a reality… I just find myself at a different place in the world right now where my priorities have shifted.
I think it’s because I’ve had so many experiences that have taught me the value of life. That sometimes life just ends before you’re ready for it to. You don’t always get that chance to go back and live over and do the things you always wanted to do. The things that you always planned to do – one day.
One day is right now.
Today is that day. Today is all we know for certain.
Maybe RIGHT NOW – is the time to go do it.