Don’t be so afraid of letting go, that you can’t move forward

One of the things I’ve seen a lot of people struggle with is letting go.

Letting go of fear, letting go of experiences and letting go of the thing you’ve always done in order to do the thing you want to do now.

Does this sound like something you’ve experienced?

My own personal experience has been exactly like this.

I spent YEARS at university getting qualifications in various subjects. I racked up a collection of degrees and when I decided that I wanted to stay home and be a mom (who blogs), my education was the thing I couldn’t let go of.

I had spent YEARS of my life gaining these degrees. I’d spent SO much money that it didn’t make logical sense to me to let go of “the original plan” – instead, I tried to figure out a way to incorporate what I used to love, with what I love now.

You know what I was left with?

Guilt. A whole lot of guilt.

You see, I was clinging so desperately to the life that I used to know – to what I knew I was good at, that I refused to see any real possibilities for my future!

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realise that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ― Steve Maraboli

Well, it may have taken a while but I’m now living that life and living it guilt free.

I still struggle with some parts, like the fact that I used to make a hell of a lot more money than I do now but you know what, success is about more than just money and once you change what you value and accept your life, you can start living intentionally and authentically in a way that serves your purpose NOW instead of that which you used to value in the past.

It’s not always the easiest thing to do but we can make that change.

It’s about a mindset change.

It’s about looking deeply into yourself and determining what it is that you value!

Once you know what you value, you can align yourself to those values.

Anything that is no longer in line with those values no longer matters.

If it’s education that you’re afraid of wasting then consider that all you learnt during those years helped shape you to the person you are today.

[bctt tweet=”There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go. –Jessica Hatchigan” username=”tyrannyofpink”]

Nothing is wasted.

It’s okay to change direction at any point in your life.

It’s okay to go a different way.

It’s okay to value new things and to let go of the old.

It’s okay to change your mind about what you want out of life and it’s definitely okay to pursue your new life plan.

It’s OKAY to design a life that you actually love. 

Letting go is part of moving forward!

[bctt tweet=”If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree. Jim Rohn ” username=”tyrannyofpink”]


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  • Sara
    11th November 2016

    I can identify with this. I also felt a lot of guilt about a lot of things, including changing direction completely, but I need to tell myself it’s okay now.

    • TyrannyofPink
      12th November 2016

      I think that changing direction completely is so brave! Few people actually have the guts to do that so good on you! And it really is okay <3

  • Kirsten
    11th November 2016

    Perfect read for today, thank you!

  • Jenna Gorman
    11th November 2016

    Loved this post! I’m having a hard time moving past the title of “personal trainer” to more of a “health coach.” I’ve been in the fitness industry for 5 years, focusing on helping women lose weight and look amazing. I want to shift my focus from helping them look amazing to FEEL amazing through many different healthy habits that don’t get discussed enough in the fitness industry. It’s scary to change up everything (well, not everything!) I’ve been preaching the last 5 years but I know once I get passed this fear, I can not only make myself happier but also help a TON more people who need it! Thank you so much for sharing and pushing me past my fear just a little bit 🙂 Your words are appreciated.

    • TyrannyofPink
      Jenna Gorman
      11th November 2016

      Hi Jenna! Thanks for your comment. I’m so glad this post has been helpful to you. I know how hard it is to change how you see yourself in your mind but so many people need more than a fitness coach, they need overall help with shifting in their minds too and a health coach would be so suited to that. I was looking for life coaching certifications yesterday (because that’s what I want to be) and came across one geared towards life coaching fitness trainers so it’s obviously something there is a need for. A lot of people are so stuck in their thinking or seeing themselves as “the fat person” or “the weak person” that having someone help them shift that would be awesome! I hope you make the move, sounds to me like you’re ready for it <3

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