Something happened to me today that I feel the need to discuss.
A friend told me that I need to give them lessons on being a bitch.
She meant it as a compliment.
I was really taken aback.
Because does that mean that I’m a bitch and thus can teach her to be one? Apparently so.
Anyone who knows me or reads my blog will know that I am STRONGLY in favour of lifting women up. I am all about helping each other, empowering other women and basically doing everything within your control to make sure that if you’re able to, you should help people.
You know what I’m NOT about? BEING A BITCH!
In fact, I try really hard not to be nasty and say things about other people that I wouldn’t say to their faces or would tell them straight up. I am NOT the kind of person to gossip behind your back. I don’t want to know gossip. I don’t want to hang out with people that bash other people and I don’t want to be called a bitch.
I don’t call my female friends “my bitches” because I think there are a million better ways to describe someone you love.
Let’s have a look at the definition of bitch shall we:
1: the female of the dog or some other carnivorous mammals2a often offensive : a malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman —sometimes used as a generalized term of abuseb often offensive : a lewd or immoral woman3: something that is extremely difficult, objectionable, or unpleasant
This is not something I want to be called or referred to. It’s not okay to label me “a bitch” because I’m outspoken, confident and strong. If that’s how you like to refer to yourself then that’s cool but it’s not for me. So don’t call me a bitch, even if you think you’re being nice. It’s NOT a compliment.
So let’s LIFT each other up!
Let’s EMPOWER each other!
Let’s be KIND to each other!
Let’s let go of words like BITCH when we’re referring to strength and confidence and being empowered. It doesn’t serve anyone!