Whose expectations are you living up to?

Whose expectations are you living up to-- Tyranny of Pink

It’s so easy to think we are living a life of our choosing without realising the external pressure that is being put on us. We go through our day-to-day lives thinking that we are doing what is best for us when the reality is, we are so used to hearing what we should be doing and how we should be living that we end up walking someone else’s idea of what our path should look like. Whose expectations are you living up to? It is so easy to think that our dreams are our dreams as we grow up to become the Doctor our parents always dreamed we would be....

Please stop asking me when I’m going to have another baby!!

Please stop asking me when I'm going to have another baby!! - Tyranny of Pink

  My son Oden is ten months old. I have never loved anyone or anything more than I love him. This child of mine is literally a miracle baby! You see, we were told that we “could not and would never conceive without medical assistance” – we were told that having a baby was just not going to happen without IVF. In fact, we had planned to start IVF treatment in September 2015 – coincidentally that is when my miracle child was born. In January of that year, I kept feeling ill and I just didn’t understand it. Of course when you’ve been told that you CAN’T fall pregnant, you...

10 Awesome Quotes about Happiness!

10 Awesome Quotes about Happiness! -Tyranny of Pink

I love quotes about happiness! Here are ten of my favourite! 1. “When I was five years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” – John Lennon 2. “Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”  – Abraham Lincoln 3. “Nobody really cares if you’re miserable, so you might as well be happy.” – Cynthia Nelms 4.  “People take different roads seeking fulfilment...

Dear Call Centre Person, the answer is YES, ANYONE can donate blood! SA NEEDS YOUR BLOOD!

DONATE BLOOD FOR MANDELA DAY 2016! - Tyranny of Pink

In September 2015, I was in hospital after a traumatic child-birth experience. I’d been in ICU for ten days and I was weak. A lovely nurse walked in, put a tube in my vein and pumped human blood into my arm. I felt a million times better. Getting blood was like being given a new lease on life. Suddenly I could sit up more easily, I could talk and concentrate and the world didn’t seem as blurry. I was given two pints of blood. Blood that had once pumped through the veins of a lovely and kind person who knew that donating blood could save a life. The blood bank...

Inspirational Women: Meet Jane of Dandelion Dreams

When I was pregnant with my son Oden, I was permanently on a mission to find my baby a beautiful mobile that he could stare up at and be carried away to happy places. Of course his dad had other ideas that included Star Wars characters hanging above my little baby. In the end, neither happened and at the last-minute we bought him a little colourful one with odd-shaped animals on it. He liked it but it wasn’t what I had planned in my head. So when my friend Jane Field recently launched her new business; Dandelion Dreams, I knew I had to write about her beautiful products that can...

#CarseatFullstop – CAR SEAT AWARENESS CAMPAIGN!

#CarSeatFullStop - Tyranny of Pink

When Mandy Lee Miller from Pregnant in Cape Town and Tums 2 Tots invited me to a be a part of this campaign, I jumped at the opportunity. Any of my friends who have ever not buckled in their child in front of me will attest to me telling them off about the dangers of it. You hear a lot of excuses like “we were just going down the road” but the truth is, most car accidents happen within 2 kms of your home! Research shows that the most likely cause is that we go into autopilot when driving in a familiar environment. We are just so used to driving that route that...

What do you want out of your life?

What do you want out of your life- -Tyranny of Pink

Every now and then it’s important to look in the mirror and ask yourself that big question. We all start out with an idea of where we want to end up “some day”, but how many of us take a step back from our adult lives and determine if we’re happy in the lives we have ended up in? More often than expected, the life you have is nothing like the one you imagined as a passionate teenager. We get sidetracked along the way. We end up going on tangents. We find ourself in dead end jobs, jobs that don’t make us happy just plodding along. Well, it doesn’t have...

Why is it so hard to let go?

Why is it so hard to let go- -Tyranny of Pink

A few weeks ago, my doorbell rang. It was my uncle dropping off some things from my grandmother’s house. You see, my grandmother died in January. A few days after my 33rd birthday – while I was lying in hospital. This woman had been like my mother. For ten years of my life she took care of me, she brushed my hair, she dressed me, she made my lunch. She loved me like I was her child. When I turned 13, I packed my bags and moved in with my dad but until then, her home had been my home. I loved her so very much. Of course as you...

To my son as he turns ten months old

To my son as he turns ten months old -Tyranny of Pink

Dearest beautiful boy Right now, you’re still figuring out the world. Things are strange to you and everything is new. You want to put everything in your mouth, you want to taste and touch and feel. Your hands are quick to grab and the thrill of everything excites you. I love watching you explore. I love watching you get excited or confused when the cat licks your hand with her rough tongue. I know it feels weird to you and I know you don’t understand everything. I know I try to protect you as much as I can. I know that at 10 months, this already drives you nuts. WHY...

My top ten tips for working from home with a new baby

My top ten tips for working from home with a new baby - Tyranny of Pink

As a mom, working from home was at the top of my priority list. It was the number one deciding factor in leaving my full-time job. Of course I wanted to be more independent and live on my own terms but most importantly, I wanted to be at home to watch my son grow up. I wanted to be there for his first words, his first steps and even just to make sure he was eating lunch every day. A lot of women leave their jobs to stay home and start their families but more and more women are starting to realise that you no longer have to choose between...

In spite of it all, Be You! Live Unapologetically!

In spite of it all, Be Unapologetically You! I survived!- Tyranny of Pink

These times we’re going through seem a little strange. Everyone and everything is chaos and in turmoil. Just when you think that you see the light at the end of the tunnel, something new happens and you’re thrown into a tailspin. You awake from the stupor, confused and lost. You don’t understand what just happened. Life my dear. Life just happened. Things have been tough around here, then they were worse and then they were better and then worse and better and worse… and I have brain freeze and I haven’t even touched the ice cream yet. Everything happens for a reason, they say. Death and life and love, no...

6 Weeks Post Colostomy Reversal Op! I survived!

6 Weeks Post Colostomy Reversal Op! I survived!- Tyranny of Pink

The last few weeks have been really tough. My surgery went amazingly (Read about that here) well and a week after being sent home from the hospital I went for a check up and my surgeon happily reported that everything was perfect and it’s all over. I smiled all the right smiles but in my heart, I knew that if something seemed too good to be true, well then, it probably is. Sadly I was right. From right after surgery, I’d had a sharp pain just to the right of my surgery cut. I’d kept telling the surgeon but he suspected it was a stitch pressing on a nerve. It...

It’s our duty as parents to prevent what happened in the Orlando nightclub from happening again!

It's our duty as parents to prevent what happened in the Orlando nightclub from happening again! - Tyranny of Pink

On Sunday, June the 12th, A shooting which occurred at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida, USA left 49 people dead. 53 people were wounded. This is being labelled the worst mass shooting in US history. Social media has been filled with stories and versions of the events. This includes rumours of the shooter being “a closet gay.” One of the hardest things to read was the message sent by a victim hiding in the bathroom, to his mother. A short message telling her what was happening and that he loves her. Another reported the eerie sound of cell phones ringing in the pockets of the dead as they lay...

Why blogging keeps me sane in the craziest of times!

Why blogging keeps me sane in the craziest of times! - Tyranny of Pink

I started this blog two years ago when I decided I’d had enough of working for other people. I up and quit my job and found myself at home with lots of time to spare. My husband and I went on a road trip to celebrate being done with that part of my life and I informally blogged about the trip. When I got home, I decided this was it for me. I’ve always loved writing and it’s the one thing I’ve always relied on to get me through the tough times and whether I like to admit it or not, that was one of the toughest times of my...

The ghosts they leave behind

THE GHOSTS THEY LEAVE BEHIND - Tyranny of Pink

These last few days have been sad days for me. Yesterday without thinking I opened up a letter my gran had written for my wedding. It was a beautiful wish for happiness and it means so much to me because my gran died the year after I got married. At the end of the letter she said she was glad she had met Gerard and she knew that we’d have a long and happy marriage. I basically lost all control reading that. I sobbed and then I sobbed a little more. It means so much to me knowing that my family love the person I have chosen to spend my...