I see a lot of women saying things like “oh I’m not an expert” or “but I don’t know enough” when talking about their value or their self-worth. I know so many successful and intelligent women who say the same thing over and over again. They don’t see their value, they don’t see themselves as capable or even able.
They doubt themselves and their abilities to get things done.
I don’t think men are as quick to put themselves down as women.
I think that comes from generations of men being the “providers” or the “successful” ones and the ones who are expected to rise to the top. Women aren’t expected to put their careers at the top of their priorities. Women are expected to take a back seat and support their husbands. Women are not groomed from childhood to be leaders and fighters. They are taught to be “ladylike” and called BOSSY when they take charge.
Women are criticised for having stern looks and not smiling all the time.
How many times have you been told “you’d be a lot prettier if you smiled” because as a woman, that is something I’ve heard countless times. Over and over and over again.
But the truth is
I am Enough
I am SO Enough!
I don’t need to smile to be so.
I don’t need to “turn that frown upside down” or stop being “bossy” when I’m in charge.
I’m not afraid to stand tall and stand proud because I’m so capable.
I don’t need to feel like I can’t achieve greatness.
I don’t need to worry that I’m not qualified for a job that I know I’m qualified for.
I don’t need to feel less just because the world tells me I should.
I don’t need to feel like I have to give up my dreams, my goals or my vision just because “I’m not good enough” because I am. I am good enough and I am capable.
And you know what?
YOU ARE TOO!
Stop doubting yourself.
Stop questioning your own abilities and lying awake at night feeling like you can’t.
And if you really can’t, you won’t know unless you try.
So don’t let the fear of failing hold you back.
Get out there and try. Try with all your heart and if you fail, so what. You can try again tomorrow.
Because you matter.
You matter so much and you are so capable of great things.
Stop doubting yourself.
Stop putting off living your dream life.
Stop denying yourself the chance to succeed just because someone once said you can’t do something.
Just because someone once told you that you might fail.
The truth is, failing is okay!
You are enough and you can do this.
So choose to love yourself. Choose to believe that you are perfect and put yourself first.
Believe in yourself!
Don’t let anyone stop you!
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Thank you Ella <3
Enricoh Alfonzo says
LOL! for a moment there I thought that was you in the pic. was gonna say EPIC tattoos.
Hahah since I’m a guy I dunno how much I can say on your perspective, but I do understand where you coming from on the whole expectation front because people have been expecting things from me and of me all my life. and I’ve either rebelled or felt the pressure of it. Neither has been very pleasant.
I’m older now and realize that I am the only one who makes the decisions around here no one else, I stopped living for them and started living for me.
Brilliant insight and wwisdom shared. Loved your affirmations.
I WISH it was me with all those tattoos! Dream plans are full sleeves ;P
It’s great to see a guy’s perspective on this and that it’s not JUST a female issue if that makes sense.
I hear you loud and clear on that one – I’ve spent almost my entire life living under expectations of some sort or other and either letting myself or my family down. It’s a great feeling when you finally start living for yourself isn’t it?
Thanks for you positive response. Always appreciated.