This is the kind of question that many bloggers deal with internally. The censorship of who they are and what they have to say. New bloggers will start out being authentic and writing the way they are inspired to write but inevitably, either someone will call them on their swearing OR they will wonder if their words are hurting their brand and preventing them from growing as bloggers.
So here’s what I think.
If you are writing something and you genuinely feel that swearing enhances what you have to say, then by all means PUT that in there.
IF your goal is to work with brands and they probably won’t like you being “vulgar” then don’t swear but that probably comes at the cost of your authentic self.
For me, the answer is simple. I swear in my blog posts when I’m writing about something in particular that makes me really angry and want to swear. Examples of this are people who DON’T use car seats. I get soooo angry about them. Another example is death. DEATH MAKES MY BLOOD BOIL because there’s nothing I can do to change the situation and it makes me feel so frustrated that inevitably I drop an f-bomb.
And you know what – that’s who I am!
I know that not everyone will like who I am and luckily, that’s cool with me.
I don’t want everyone to like me because I’d have to be one hell of a people pleaser in my every day life if everyone was going to like me. I think that’s just how we are as human beings. We don’t make everyone happy all the time and that’s OKAY! We don’t have to.
So if someone comes to my blog and gets offended because I swear, I’m cool if they don’t come back. I’m cool if they close the page and mutter to themselves about the youth of today – because yay, something thinks I’m youthful 😛
Seriously though the bottom line is that not everyone is going to like you and not everyone has to!
And that’s OKAY!!
If you don’t want to offend people then don’t swear. It’s easy enough not to do and people ARE going to be offended by your language. But to me, when you have to censor who you are in your own part of the internet, then that takes away from your authenticity and that’s the most important thing about MY blog to ME! I pride myself on being unapologetically who I am and if that means losing some readers who don’t relate to my “potty” mouth then honestly, I’m cool with that.
If that means NOT working with some brands who don’t approve of my image – then I’m cool with that too! We are obviously not the right fit for each other.
So at the end of the day, you need to consider what your goals are, what your purpose is, why you’re doing what you’re doing and then decide if it’s worth changing who you are and the way you write to fit in with those goals!
Just do what works for YOU and not what someone else tells you they think you should do!
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Celeste Jonkers says
There is a huge difference between vulgar and being so passionate about a subject that f-bombs are the most eloquent way to interpret your feelings.
I don’t mind reading any post that has a few swear words here and there. Sometimes it’s really called for. It’s those “effing posts that effing has a effing swear word every effing time and effing contains more effing than real effing words” that puts me off. More swear words than substance.
Maybe I’m being judgy but it just seems like lazy writing and they lose me between the second and fifth swear word in one sentence.
I’ve said it in your car seat post and I’ll say it again; The swear words don’t offend me. I find it brings the story home. Besides, you’re just awesome and that’s that.
TyrannyofPink says
Yessss I think that’s exactly how I feel. I don’t swear just for the hell of swearing but sometimes, only those words can express how I feel deeply inside about things. I also don’t like to read posts or watch movies for that matter – where swearing is just a part of the mundane dialogue. Thanks Celeste, you rock <3
Simone Cameron says
I love your swearing… but I mean I love swearing generally…lol.
I can definitely tell that you drop F-bombs when you’re passionate, so in the context I find it appropriate. If you’re just randomly saying: ‘I went to the effing mall for a pair of effing shoes today! ‘ well then….maybe now…unless you’re very passionate about your shoes and the mall I guess 😉
Simone Cameron says
*maybe not
TyrannyofPink says
Thanks Simone! Lol, yeah I’m definitely not passionate enough about going to the mall…. shoes on the other hand 😛