Everyone has stress, it’s just a normal part of life but wouldn’t it be nice if there were ways that you could deal with your stress and be happier on a day-to-day basis? Certain areas of your life are sure to make you feel more unsettled than others. Common contributing areas are finances and dealing with debt, your career or business, your health, your weight, emotional turmoil and family conflict!
Here are some ways to be happier when these areas of your life are contributing to that feeling of being unsettled and distressed in your day to day life!
Ways to be happier when you are stressed by:
When your finances are the thing causing you unhappiness in your life, the best solution is to put an actionable plan into place to start solving your financial concerns. Look at your monthly budget and find ways that you can cut back on spending and rather put more money into getting rid of that debt.
You’d be surprised how much you’re spending unnecessarily that could be better spent paying off debt with high interest rates.
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Many of us spend a lot of time at work so it’s important to be happy in your career. If you aren’t, you need to look at the underlying cause of that unhappiness. Are you perhaps not feeling challenged enough? If that’s the issue then perhaps it’s time to start looking for a new role within the company or perhaps even somewhere else. Personal development is an important part of our growth and that comes from learning new skills and feeling like we are contributing and being appreciated.
Or maybe you need a raise and you feel that you are not being paid your worth. Look at your role and do some research on what a fair salary would be or what you’d like to earn and speak to your boss about a possible increase.
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If your health is causing you unhappiness, look at the underlying factors for your health issues. Do you need to see a specialist who can help you with managing your health? Maybe you need to book a session with a personal trainer who can help you with putting goals in place to reach your fitness goals.
If your health concerns are out of your control, just remember to take time out for yourself to get yourself into the right frame of mind to help you cope better.
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If your weight is making you unhappy, ask yourself why! What is the reason that you’re so unhappy with your weight. You have two options. Either you can put a plan in place to start losing the excess weight that is making you unhappy or you can start appreciating your body for everything it can do. Instead of telling yourself that you’re overweight, remind yourself of the things your body has achieved.
Your body doesn’t have to look a certain way to be beautiful, bodies come in all shapes and sizes and there isn’t one perfect shape over another. Learn to appreciate your body.
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It’s easy to lose sight of what’s causing our distress when we are going through emotional turmoil. Try to stay focused on the issue at hand and remember that sadness is an acceptable feeling to have. When you feel like you can’t control your emotions, try taking a few deep breaths that remind us that we are in control and help us to focus on the current moment. If it’s an event that has triggered the emotions, allow yourself to pass through the feelings and think about what has happened. Processing what we are going through is a good way to get past it without letting it control you.
Take back the reigns and focus on bringing the situation back under your control. Feel the emotions without letting them get away with you. Try to understand what you need to do to process what you are going through and remember that it’s okay to let yourself feel what you are feeling but focus on getting through it as well.
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Firstly, take a step away from the situation. It’s easy to let conflict within your family escalate out of control. Take time out to assess the situation and to ask yourself if it’s worth being involved in the conflict. Look at what the issue is and try to reasonably consider what your role is within the conflict and how you can best solve the problem. If you have hurt someone’s feelings, consider if it’s maybe best for everyone to apologise for your role in the matter. If not, try to explain your side of the story in a calm and mature manner.
Don’t lose your temper and yell because that is guaranteed to put walls up and nothing is going to be solved. If things start to escalate, walk away from the situation until everyone is calmer. Sometimes, the best solution when it comes to family is to agree to disagree. Just because you are family it doesn’t mean you must think the same way.
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Thanks for the reminder Jonelle. I am beyond frustrated at the moment, mainly work/study plans not coming together as I had hoped. I am making a concerted effort to change the things I’m not happy with, but it is taking and I am way too impatient! I suppose there are things to be learned in the frustrating season of life!
Ohhh I totally feel your pain on this one! We are also just sitting around waiting so that we can move to NZ. Sometimes, there’s not much else you can do but then I try to control the things I can. Lately that’s feeling a lot like all I can control is when I eat lunch 😛 Like you, I am too impatient. Perhaps we should work on that! xx
Melissa Javan says
The weight thing has been my issue. And yesterday I spoke to a friend about it and she said she has accepted her weight, body. Errrr I don’t know about me yet 🙂
You know, I found that just accepting that I’m not my thin old self and actually buying clothing that suits and FITS my “fuller figure” has really helped me. Trying on too small clothing was just making me feel down all the time. Since my upgrade, I’m feeling much better about how I look.